How does one tell an ex that their treatment of their children (dog shampoo for head lice) is unacceptble?

I don't want to lose access to my children by questioning and infuriating their mother.How does one tell an ex that their treatment of their children (dog shampoo for head lice) is unacceptble?
You do know that dog shampoo is as safe as baby shampoo in most cases? While it wont get rid of lice, it wont hurt the kids. Its made with the same stuff as baby shampoo because it is almost impossible to keep it out of the pets eyes, and the pet is going to lick it.














After reading the next person, I asked my grandmother who is up on all the home remedies. She says using dog shampoo is a legit alternative. And as I already said, its safe, wont hurt the kids.How does one tell an ex that their treatment of their children (dog shampoo for head lice) is unacceptble?
By reading everyones statements, I guess not to many people hear have had lice. Well...I have and my kids have and my cousins kids and so on...Dog shampoo does work. I know people say to just by lice killer shampoo but sometimes that's too expensive and dog schampoo doesn't hurt the kids heads. I mean I don't recommend them to use on a daily bases but to kill the lice, yes it works. We have used it before because we didn't have the money to by the med. but we had dog shampoo cause we had a dog.








It will kill the lice unless there is just too many lice in the kids heads then you HAVE to buy the meds.
Just flat out say it. The two of you are adults and should be able to communicate with one another in regards to your children without getting into petty fights or arguments.





Call your ex, and say to her ';I just wanted to have a quick chat with you about when our kids got head lice. I really don't think the dog shampoo was appropriate to use on them.. in the future would you mind just grabbing some of the shampoo that's specifically formulated for head lice? If you can't, I can pick some up for you it's not a problem.';





Also, if things like this are happening on a frequent basis, you'll need to document them. Once you have enough documentation about how she abuses, neglects, or otherwise harms your children, you take her to court and sue for custody. Your children should be safe, and if they are not they need to be with you.





Anyway, if she loses it or starts getting all angry with you or rude, just say ';I wasn't trying to upset you, I just want what's best for the kids and wanted to make sure we're on the same page. Sorry if I've insulted you in any way, that wasn't my intention.'; And then get off the phone. If you're nothing but plesant and considerate of the children, she can't really fault you for that. Even if she's immature enough to fault you for that, no court system would. :)





Good luck.





P.S. If she tries to not allow you access to the kids without a court order, call the police and hav ethem escort you to her house. You will need a copy of the agreement you have that outlines the times you are allowed to see the kids, but the police WILL escort you there and force her to release the children to you.
Just tell her how you feel about it. Be honest and go by the rid your self.





I will say this however say this about your ex and the dog shampoo. It really isn't that big of deal like everyone on here wants you to believe.





Back when I was growing up we were pretty poor and I got head lice from a neighbor and my mom used the lice dog shampoo and it was a cheaper and bigger bottle than the rid!! It did the job and it never killed me or damaged my scalp. It worked just as good as the other lice shampoo.





But do what you feel is right.
It is simple, go and buy the lice shampoo and give it to her to use. Then just tell her you wanted to help out and try to get rid of it as badly as she does. You can also find info. online about treating humans with dog shampoo and how it is harmful. You also have to remember to much head lice treatment can be harmful as well. The clothes, bedding, has to be washed, floors vacuumed, parents, and over night friends also have to be treated. Head lice is more than a one time deal and an hour of work. I have a family of six and head lice happened, but it took us 2 treatments to beat the problem, and tons of cleaning, and washing. One thing is that if everyone and everything isn't treated and cleaned it won't go away. That means bagging toys untill the problem is solved. My Dr. gave us some stuff you leave in for 12-14 hours, and it worked great! We used the lice comb everyday for 2 weeks, to make sure we catching all lice and eggs we might have missed. Good Luck and if done properly you can beat head lice.
First of all, do you have legal rights to see your children? If so, she cannot hold your children from you, unless you prove unfit. Tell her that the shampoo is dangerous for children, and to use a children's shampoo!! If she gets mad and tries to keep you children from you, report her, and fight for your rights to see them!
This probably isn't what you want to hear..but they're her kids too.I'm sure she was doing what she thought was best for them.Everyone makes mistakes.


I'd say forgive her and move on..unless the kids are really upset by this?


Then if you make a mistake in the near future,you can remind her of the dog shampoo incident haha


Don't do anything rash to jepordise your paternal rights.
You won't. Just tell her that dog shampoo will not get rid of the lice, that you have to have special shampoo....as well as bag up all stuffed toys, pillows, blankets with a special spray and vacuum that crap out of everything. Lice sucks!





Go buy the stuff and take it to her.
Ohhhh you got one of those exs, huh? Man, I'm sorry! Im in my mid-30's and the ex has finally calmed down a little, but I feel ya. You got to tell it to her straight. Or do the treatment yourself. Lice shampoo isn't that much at Wal-Mart. Dog shampoo? That could be damaging to their scalp! She sounds like an idiot.
That is very unacceptable! You should just approach the situation as calmly as possible! They are your children too and she cannot keep you away from them because of something like this. Also remember that by her doing something like this she could have them taken away from her.
i guess you dont. the head lice are indicative of a filthy home, and i doubt you are going to volunteer to come and clean it every week.
LOL All though it says Dog Shampoo its basically the same ingredients . I give that person credit for improvising . Believe it or not allot of people use dog shampoo because it makes there hair shine
One could set up a meeting with a professional in discussing parenting issues with the other parent..
maybe go and buy some lice shampoo for your kids and say lets try this.
Tell her to read the bottle. I'm sure it says that it shouldn't be used on humans.
why dont you clean the childrens hair?


she wont have to use it then
try putting ur ex on a leash--she might get it
oh please honey, you just tell her, that is horrible.
just be honest with her but in a tactful way